Weâ€™ve talked a lot about the need for precise language, in dialogue and out. Our dialogues could be so much more productive if we avoided sidetracking them with inflammatory or inaccurate words. Conversely, precise language gives us the best chance of conveying our ideas more clearly to people who might not share or be familiar with them. It is in the spirit of precision that I now wish you:
Every year around this time, thereâ€™s a certain level of fuss about that phrase. â€œItâ€™s the Christmas season, dammit!â€ goes the line of thought. â€œJesus is the reason for the season! Why canâ€™t we just say Merry Christmas?â€ Happy Holidays, to people who argue this way, is too vapid, too â€œpolitically correct,â€ to describe what December is really about.
Iâ€™ll admit that Happy Holidays is kind of vapid. Because of my faith tradition, Christmas is a treasured holy day for me. At church on Christmas Eve, I will be delighted to wish my fellow parishioners Merry Christmas.
Outside of church, though, itâ€™s a different story. The U.S., where I live, is not predominantly Christian as it once wasâ€”not by a long shot. Millions of people here are Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Hindus, followers of no faith tradition, you name it. And often (as with Hanukkah) their holidays and festivals take place in December as well.
So when I encounter people at the store, or on the street, and I donâ€™t know their faith orientation, Happy Holidays seems the best way to greet them with good cheer while respecting their beliefs about life. If Iâ€™m addressing a groupâ€”either physically present or virtually, as on Facebookâ€”itâ€™s usually a safe bet that someone in the group doesnâ€™t celebrate Christmas. Happy Holidays is a way of showing respect to those people too.
This is a basic principle for dialogue. Without a perception of respect from their dialogue partner, few people would willingly share their convictions in dialogue. That showing of respect creates a welcoming place in which people feel free to express themselves without fear of recrimination.
Soâ€¦to my Jewish friends, Happy Hanukkah. To my Christian friends, Merry Christmas. To all my friends, Happy Holidays.