I asked myself this question while journaling last week. I did not expect the wild ride through my unconscious that followed.
The question has become central for me because I find myself enraged at people on the other side of the debate: the folks who want to build a wall on the Mexican border, or block Syrian refugees from entering the U.S., or press for English-only policies. That persistent rage feels corrosive to my soul, like something I need to work through.
The odd thing is that immigration issues donâ€™t really make an impact on my daily life, at least not on a visceral level. My list of friends is rather thin on people from other countries, and none of them plan on immigrating. My part of the U.S. is not really a magnet for immigrants, as (for instance) California and the Southwest are.
In short, my rage is all out of proportion to the thing thatâ€™s triggering it. Over the years, Iâ€™ve learned to see that and ask, â€œWhatâ€™s going on here?â€
Asking that question led me to the question in the title. Why does immigration matter to me?
I started exploring the question in my journal, and it didnâ€™t take long for all hell to break loose. My stance on immigration quickly led to my passion for welcoming everyone carte blanche into my life. That, in turn, pulled me into a whole multitude of issues around loss and grief that I have yet to fully understand. Trust me, they are large issues.
I havenâ€™t come close to revisiting them at this point, one week later. I am not surprised, however, to discover that my iron grip on my beliefsâ€”and the rage that accompanies itâ€”have relaxed a bit.
Next, I imagined putting the same question to a relative who is particularly strident about immigration. I reviewed what I knew of her life situation, talked it over with my wife, and tried to gain an â€œempathic glimpse.â€ Sure enough, the answers to â€œwhy is immigration important to her?â€ came quickly: the healthcare benefits that her neighborhoodâ€™s immigrants can access and she canâ€™t; the language barriers that make her life difficult because she doesnâ€™t speak Spanish; the economic insecurity she lives with day by day.
Suddenly she seemed more, well, human. Her situation deserved some sympathy (while taking nothing away from the situation of the immigrants themselves). I had a chance, at least, of not letting this issue damage our relationship.
So now Iâ€™m wondering: what if we asked that â€œto youâ€ question regularly, not only of others but, much more important, of ourselves? What if, instead of snapping off a superficial, abstract answer, we slowed down our lives and our hearts enough to consider the question in greater depth? How might the insights we uncover soften the way we approach our adversaries? Might we glimpse the humanity and perhaps the suffering behind their positions?
Is this sufficient for policymaking on an organizational level? Of course not. But I would submit that it is necessary. Asking this question, and listening for the answers, enable us to bring our whole selves to the issue at hand: not just our cerebral sides but our hearts, our shadow sides, everything that might inform a wise (not just a rational) decision.
Have you asked this question of yourselfâ€”on any issue? What happened? Feel free to share here.